Never Break Plans with a Stay At Home Mom

Never, ever break plans with a stay at home mom.

Moms who stay at home each day with their children do not get the chance to have adult conversations for the greater part of the day. They never get to discuss the latest world news, or gossip about their favorite shows…ha ha, just kidding, they don’t have time to watch anything other than Curious George and Mickey Mouse Clubhouse! But still, the point is that the conversations their days are filled with are usually about how exciting it was to see a lizard in the backyard and whose body that noise came from.

If she’s got plans to meet you for dinner, fro yo, at the gym, maybe you’re supposed to stop by after work, whatever it might be, don’t flake out on her unless you absolutely have to! Something you may be fine with postponing to the following week might be something she has been looking forward to for days. Not just looking forward to, but counting on. Life gets busy, I get that, I really do. But just make sure you can’t shuffle some other things around before you up and cancel your plans.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying stay at home moms are some fragile butterflies that you have to treat as if they’ll cry at the drop of a hat, although postpartum hormones can sneak up and they might. All I’m saying is that I guarantee she’s been waiting for that time of adult interaction like a child waiting for Christmas morning. It’ll be as if she’s going on a first date…I can’t wait until tomorrow night! I think I’ll wear that new shirt I bought two months ago and still haven’t gotten to wear! Should I shave my legs? It sounds ridiculous and yet it’s completely true!

So if you’re a forgetful person, get a planner, set an alarm on your phone, write it on your arm, write it on your forehead, but be there. If you lead a glamorously busy life, make your friends who miss you (because I promise you, they miss you. They miss talking to anyone who is old enough to vote.) a priority.

And don’t forget: When you do meet up with them, don’t be surprised when they offer you hand sanitizer or ask you if you need to go potty before your meal comes! Just say yes and “try” anyway!

Now text your favorite stay at home mom and let them know you’re thinking of them. And maybe bring them wine…lots of wine.

Forever Friends

At one time or another, we’ve all got jobs, bills, family dynamics, health issues, children,… a million things that can stress us out. As blessed as we may be in our intimate relationships or bonds we have with family members, friends are a part of life that truly makes it special.

I try not to read anything on Urban Dictionary because, well, let’s be honest, most of it makes me cringe or blush. But, in this case, they have defined (with typos, which again, makes me cringe!) the term “forever friends.”  Here’s what stuck with me…

“Someone who is there for you no matter what. Who knows anything and everything about you and still likes you. Someone who will sleep with the phone under their pillow just in case you need to call them at 3 in the morning. Someone you can laugh uncontrolably with or cry histaricly with…But most importantly someone who is there for you when you need them most and will love you through the good times and the bad.”

This is fantastic.  It makes me tear up and smile every time I read it (as long as I don’t pay attention to the fact that whoever wrote this MUST be a sixth grader who has never heard of spell check.)

Anyway, what happened while you were reading that definition? You immediately started mental listing your friends.  The ones who you feel are worthy of this honorable title, “forever friend.”

How often do you actually tell them that they mean so much to you? That you couldn’t imagine your life without them? Routinely saying someone is your “best friend” isn’t always the same as the feeling you get when you think about your forever friends.

You might have one, you might have five. That doesn’t matter. After all, remember: It’s quality, not quantity.

NOW is the time to let your friends, any friends you really care about, know how much they mean to you! Copy this picture and text it to them, post it on their Facebook wall, post it on your Instagram, print it and leave it somewhere for your hubby, etc. Let’s give our friends the  good feelings they deserve!

WAM Friends

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It’s always the right time to brighten someone’s day.